Michael Paramo on Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Agender Identity

October 11, 2019
Hosted by Tristan Taormino

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Michael Paramo, the editor of TheAsexual.com, joins us to talk about the upcoming book Ending the Pursuit: Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Agender Identity. This work will examine how Western ideas of sexuality, romance, attraction, and gender – i.e. that sexual desire is inherently natural to all humans; that forming a sexual or romantic relationship is essential; that sensual closeness like cuddling and kissing implies sexual attraction; that gender is exclusively a binary of “man” and “woman”; etc. – are not inherently natural but instead have been naturalized over time. Along with the normalization of these ideas also came the indoctrination of certain constructs which pressured many of us to conform or “play by the rules” of sexuality, romance, attraction, and gender – to be in pursuit of “normalcy” – despite not fitting squarely within the moulds they carved out for us.

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Tristan Taormino

Tristan Taormino is an award winning author, sex educator, speaker, and filmmaker. She is the author of seven books, including The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, The Big Book of Sex Toys, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. She has edited 25 anthologies including The Ultimate Guide to Kink and the Lambda Literary Award winning series Best Lesbian Erotica. She’s written for a multitude of publications from Yale Journal of Law and Feminism to Penthouse. For nine and a half years, she wrote a column in The Village Voice and has written an advice column for Taboo Magazine since 1999.

As the head of Smart Ass Productions, she directs and produces adult sex education and erotic films, including The Expert Guide series for Vivid Entertainment. Her films have won more than a dozen awards, and she was honored with the prestigious Feminist Porn Trailblazer Award in 2010. Tristan and her work have been featured in over 300 publications including O: The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men’s Health, and Playboy. She has appeared on HBO’s Real Sex, Ricki Lake, The Howard Stern Show, Loveline, MTV, CNN, NBC, and The Discovery Channel. She lectures at top colleges and universities including Harvard, Yale, Cornell, Princeton, Brown, Columbia, and NYU. She teaches sex and relationship classes around the world.

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