Tired of Being Too Nice? Then Listen to the ‘Queen of Boundaries’
November 1, 2021
Hosted by Ron Roel
Over the years, have you found yourself increasingly frustrated, saying “yes” to people just to keep them happy? Are you tired of hearing yourself described as a pushover or “too nice”? Or emotionally exhausted by the unreasonable demands of friends, family or co-workers? Well, then, it’s time you listened to life coach and best-selling author Michelle Elman, known as “The Queen of Boundaries” by her half-million social media followers. In today’s episode, Michelle, the author of the recently published “The Joy of Being Selfish,” explains how upholding strong boundaries will teach others how to treat you, rid your life of drama and toxic relationships, and allow you to care for yourself in the best way possible. She provides guidance for people who have trouble saying “no” or who frequently find themselves on the receiving end of “emotional dumps”—when someone is transferring their unfiltered emotions on you. The creator of the “In All Honesty” podcast, Michelle offers advice on what to do if you feel guilty after setting a boundary, as well as what we should do when our boundaries are crossed. She will also describe some of her acclaimed work as an influencer, including her notable “Scarred Not Scared campaign” to bring awareness to surgery scars and help women to embrace their bodies. And as we start to come out of the pandemic, Michelle will address the need to re-examine boundaries and perhaps set new ones, as people deal with different levels of comfort, concerns and socialization. Whatever your situation, she’ll provide a practical guide to help you take back your time, while maintaining your sense of safety and self-worth.
Monday at 12 Noon Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica Variety Channel
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I’m a veteran journalist who spent a wide-ranging career covering business, politics and social issues, the last two decades focusing on the blend of diverse life skills I call successful aging.
I have written extensively on aging topics, spoken at conferences, radio and TV shows, and launched several entrepreneurial ventures, discovering along the way that the path to aging well also requires an unexpected entrepreneurial vision. I spent 20 years as a writer and editor at Long Island’s daily newspaper, Newsday, helping to found Act 2, a weekly section for 50-plus readers. I created Roelresources.com, a website offering practical advice and inspirational essays for people ages 40 and above. I have been a volunteer and consultant to AARP Long Island, writing articles, advocating for seniors, and developing action plans for the AARP Age-Friendly Communities initiative.
I am active in programs and organizations that support seniors, such as the National Aging In Place Council and the Senior Umbrella Network. I have developed a special expertise in family caregiving, as one of four brothers who took care of their mother for almost 25 years. I regularly collaborate with many professionals who provide services and support for older Americans, and I am completing a book for caregivers on Long Island, “The Caregiving Navigator/How to Plan, What to do, and Where to Turn When Caring for you Aging Loved Ones. And Yourself,” scheduled for publication in early 2021.