Better is Bullshit - How Judgement Blocks Our Growth
November 12, 2021
Hosted by Christi Anne Bela
The idea of better is one that we see everywhere. The world of commerce and marketing is built upon the idea that you can have your grass greener and if you did you would be happier, sexier, better. I call Bullshit! The idea that things can be better "if only", or that we need to strive for better or we are lazy, is actually a trap. It is one that keeps us feeling less than and unworthy. This just furthers the idea that we need something or someone better. If we are judging, then we are not even in a place to receive the joy of the other or what we think is better, because even when we get it, we don't give ourselves permission to experience it. Still trapped in the loop, we are often already on to the next quest for better without appreciation for what is. It is this black and white thinking, of "either/or", rather than the idea of "and". With "and", you can add, align or expand with your experience beyond judgment. Change is great, we need it and it happens all the time (even when we wish it didn't), if we are judging change as better or worse, then we are missing the chance to experience what is different. What if nothing is truly better or worse, but just different? That is what we explore in this episode, how to welcome what is different and use that to help discern what we truly desire.
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Christi Anne Bela
Christi Anne Bela, published author, keynote speaker, radio personality and Intimacy Architect. Her expertise is helping people discover the power of intimacy and how to harness it, opening themselves to living passionately.
Christi Anne began her work as a sexuality educator in 2008. She has an extensive background in Tantra, Yoga and wellness, including training at the Autism Center of America and the Kundalini Research Institute.
She is the founder of Intimacy Architecture, which combines self-growth and community building to create safer ways to enjoy and honor the power of our sexuality. The acronym she created, C.A.T.C.H., to teach boundaries to people of all ages and abilities is featured in the “Consent Guidebook” and was part of the talk she did at TEDx Lenox Village Women in 2020.
Christi Anne has spoken on the subject of consent and boundaries at the Sex Down South Conference, Mega Disability Conference and the Arc Conference for the last 3 years. She has run workshops for Sex Positive World, body positive Burlesque series, fundraisers for LGBTQ youth and outreach with the Nashville Pride.