The Idealized Image
November 9, 2022
Hosted by Kirsten Johansen
We learn early in life that we need to live up to and perform to certain standards in order to be considered smart, successful, attractive and valuable. Many of us spend much of our lives building and serving what feels like ourselves, but is actually our image. Our idealized image. And with the sharing of our lives online, the idealized image has become more and more curated. We browse social media platforms, taking in these storybook creations and wonder why we don’t measure up, or alternately, are relieved to feel superior if only for a moment. But, what happens when the idealized image is deconstructed and abandoned and the real self is fed, watered, nurtured, accepted and let loose into the world?!? Honesty, vulnerability, hijinks, hilarity, trust, connection, friendship…the possibilities are endless. No curating needed. Love yourself. Free yourself. Be yourself.
GTO Freedom for Humans
Wednesday at 10 AM Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica Variety Channel
Free yourself and find your Tango! Join us for laughter, tears, tools, and strategies to help you shift your perspective and connect with other humans and to something greater. Through inspirational stories of humans who have freed themselves from suffering, you will spot self-hate and develop its antidote: unconditional love, compassion, and acceptance of self. This will influence and simplify your choices, large and small. Self-hate is sneaky. One of its talents is to convince us it doesn't exist while it tells us we're not good enough. Ouch! Self-hate thrives when humans feel like they are alone. You are not alone. When humans share from a radically honest and vulnerable place, we build trust and connection. GTO, Giraffe Tango Octopus, the integration of my wonderfully weird human characteristics, was born from my own journey to freedom through unconditional self-love and acceptance. Given my history as a self-hating perfectionist, it is nothing short of a miracle!
I’m going to get straight to the point. I was suffering! My self-hating perfectionism was militant and pervasive. While it led to success, it certainly did not lead to happiness. Success and happiness aren’t the same. Sometimes they aren’t even friends! I had been working to improve and fix myself for nearly 35 years. No part of my life or my appearance was safe from my inner critic and the belief that I had to do better. Be better. Look better. A human can’t live this way without anesthesia behaviors. I was no exception. Anesthesia behaviors tend to compound suffering by providing only brief relief followed by more harm to the self. Just as the pandemic began, my suffering had enveloped me. There was nowhere left to go. I could slide into the dark, hollow, emptiness I felt when I looked inside, or lay down my weapons and surrender. Surrender, finally, to unconditional love, acceptance, and compassion for myself. This complete shift in my beliefs about myself allowed me to heal my wounds, grieve my losses and experience a rebirth. I told self-hate to kick rocks! GTO Coaching for Humans allows me to connect with other humans and help them find freedom and love themselves. GTO Freedom for Humans reflects my passion for radically honest and vulnerable storytelling and leveraging the experiences of others to connect us, heal us and release us into the freedom of unconditional self-acceptance. I am living my purpose now. In gratitude, Kirsten