How ADHD Can Kill Your Love Life, and How to Keep it From Killing Yours
November 27, 2013
Hosted by Ellen Eatough
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We all know ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) affects children’s learning, and many of us feel it affects us at work. But did you know ADHD (yours or your partner’s) can sabotage your intimate relationship?
Dr. John Gray says, “In nearly every couple I have ever counseled the inability to correctly or appropriately regulate attention and focus is one of the root causes of their challenges. Just as ADHD has become an epidemic in children, it is wrecking havoc in our adult lives and relationships giving rise to increasing divorce statistics.”
In this show, we’ll explore how ADHD shows up in adults, and how the effects are more far-reaching than the standard symptoms of ADHD, as unexpected as how we operate in the world as women and men, and how these effects can erode the bond between even the most loving partners. We’ll also discuss some solutions that can lead to less stress, better relationships, more energy, and overall increased vitality and happiness.
Extatica: The Way to an Erotic, Ecstatic Love Life
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Sex can almost always be better. EXTATICA: The Way to an Erotic, Ecstatic Love Life explores the depths, breadth and heights to which deep intimacy and fulfilled sexuality can take us, and how you can expand YOUR sex life. Learn ways to boost full-body pleasure, sexual communication and sexual-spiritual union.
Host Ellen Eatough, “The Soulful Sex Coach” and sexual healer, will inspire you as she examines new possibilities in the world of love, sex, intimacy and sexual-spiritual fulfillment with intriguing top experts. They’ll give you a sense of permission to push your boundaries and explore new realms, as you heal sexual wounds and release the chokehold of cultural repression and inhibition that may have limited your enjoyment of the richly fulfilling sex life you deserve. Plus, you’ll get practical “how to” information and tools to do this. Learn to cultivate the powerful energies of sexuality and an undefended heart so you can fully express your divine nature in all of life.
Since 1991, Ellen Eatough has been helping individuals and couples release sexual and relationship blocks and enjoy deeper intimacy, sexual healing, joyful sexual expression, and sexual-spiritual integration. She uses vibrational frequencies, including colored light, sound, and subtle energy in her programs, products and transformational work with clients.
With a Masters Degree in East-West Psychology, Ellen is a Certified Hypnotherapist and trained practitioner in many energetic and somatic modalities. In 1998, she began having dramatic spontaneous encounters with sexual-spiritual ecstasy and became a research subject in a nationwide study of people who have spontaneous experiences of transcendent sex. Inspired to share what’s potentially accessible to everyone, Ellen integrates ancient sacred lovemaking traditions, relationship psychology, and cutting-edge sex research in a way that is relatable to mainstream lovers.
She has received international acclaim for her workshops and products on sexual healing and ecstatic lovemaking, which she defines as an integration of intense sexual pleasure, deep emotional intimacy, and spiritual union. She produced Music for Better Sex infused with Auditory Pheromones™ and the “4 Keys to Sexual Ecstasy” lovemaking enhancement system and book. She has published numerous articles, conducted workshops at the International Conference on Sacred Sexuality and been a guest on numerous programs, including Playboy Radio and GAIAM TV.
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Arjuna Ardagh is an Awakening Coach, writer and public speaker. He has trained more than 1300 people to become facilitators of awakening. He is the author of eight books, including the 2005 #1 national bestseller The Translucent Revolution, featured in “O” magazine. His new book, Better than Sex, is the complete introduction to Awakening Coaching.
He has been a speaker at conferences all over the world, including a recent talk at the United Nations. Since the age of 14 he has had a passionate interest in spiritual awakening, and he began to practice mediation and yoga at that time. In his late teens he trained as a meditation teacher. After graduating from Cambridge University with a master’s degree in literature, Ardagh devoted himself completely to the call he felt inside, and studied and lived with a number of great spiritual teachers, both in Asia and the United States. He lives with his wife, Chameli Ardagh, in the Sierra Nevada mountains in California. View Guest page
Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D.
You may know Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D., as the author the 1997 underground classic, Aphrodite's Daughters. Based on the stories of ordinary American women, beautifully written, and irresistibly engaging, it shows the immensely important role sexuality plays in shaping our spiritual journey.
She has also published four other books, including The Hunger for Ecstasy, and her latest, Evolving Toward Peace: Awakening the Global Heart, which is being heralded as “exciting, compelling and groundbreaking.”
Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D., is the founder and director of the Institute for Circlework and one of the foremost experts in the use of circle gatherings for healing, peacemaking and women’s empowerment. She has gained international recognition for her groundbreaking work with Jewish and Palestinian women in the Middle East. View Guest page
Susan Bratton is an advocate for all men who seek to be better lovers — to lead their woman to her sensual potential. She is equally passionate about supporting women’s sexual empowerment and fervently believes great personal growth comes from intimate physical connection.
Susan is co-founder and CEO of Personal Life Media, an online publishing company specializing in heart-centered adult sexual education home study programs. She is an award-winning speaker and internationally-renowned author of over 1,000 articles on intimacy.
Susan works with her techno-inventor husband, Tim, providing online home study programs for men and couples who want more intimacy and passion. And she has been featured on media outlets as wide-ranging as the New York Times, CNBC and Playboy Radio.
An innovator and change-maker, Susan champions lover’s rights for shame-free sexuality and creates tools and techniques that help couples open intimately for more passion. View Guest page
Raphael Cushnir is a leading voice in the world of emotional connection and present moment awareness. He’s written six books, lectures worldwide, and coaches individuals and at large organizations. Raphael’s own heart was opened by an experience of profound grief.
In 1996, both his career and his marriage fell apart. He recalls: It was a classic dark night of the soul. Many people experience something similar in their own lives. The particulars are always different but the essential experience is the same, a deep, depressing, gut-wrenching pain. In my case, everything I thought I knew about life went completely out the window.
Then, luckily, one of his mentors convinced him to embrace the pain instead of turn away from it. He suggested that, in fact, this was a perfect opportunity to wake up. Cushnir took his mentor’s advice and ran with it. Over a decade later he’s waking up still, one moment at a time. Helping others do the same has become his new life mission. View Guest page
Ellen Eatough, MA
Ellen Eatough, MA, “The Soulful Sex Coach,” is the founder of Extatica.com and the host of this VoiceAmerica radio show. She is a certified hypnotherapist with a master’s degree in East-West Psychology, which is a marriage of western psychology and eastern spiritual traditions. Over the last 20 years she has helped many thousands of people enjoy deeper intimacy with ecstatic lovemaking and clear out the cultural inhibitions and sexual wounding that get in the way of that.
Ellen has developed innovative technologies and methods to help people connect deeply with their spiritual source through sexuality and intimate relationships. Since 1991, she has been using vibrational frequencies, including sound, colored light and subtle energy, to help clients release and heal from sexual and relationship trauma.
She is the producer of the lovemaking enhancement system, “4 Keys to Sexual Ecstasy” and “Love Unbound,” Music for Better Sex infused with Auditory Pheromones(TM). View Guest page
Charlie Glickman PhD
Charlie Glickman PhD is co-author, with Aislinn Emerzian, of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. He has been a sexuality educator for over 20 years. In that time, he’s seen how often people struggle with sexuality, ignorance, shame, and fear. He’s also witnessed the incredible transformations that stepping into authentic sexuality can create. His goal is to help you discover new ways to experience amazing sex, create the life that maximizes your joy, and build happy relationships. Charlie speaks and teaches workshops on a wide range of topics, including sex-positivity, sex and shame, gender and masculinity, sexual orientation, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual practices such as prostate play, anal sex, pegging, sex toys, BDSM, and polyamory. Charlie is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. He also offers trainings on sexuality for medical professionals, therapists, and clergy. View Guest page
John Gray, Ph.D.
John Gray, Ph.D. is the best-selling relationship author of all time and the most trusted voice in relationships today. He is the author of 17 books, including The New York Times #1 Best-Selling Book of the last decade, MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. His 17 books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages around the world.
John is a leading internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. His unique focus is assisting men and women in understanding, respecting and appreciating their differences. John's advice can be easily used to improve relationships at home and in the workplace.
For more than 35 years, through his highly acclaimed books, videos and transformational seminars, John has entertained and inspired audiences with practical communication techniques. John’s purpose is to create a world where men and women understand, respect, appreciate, and ultimately work together. View Guest page
Carista Luminare, Ph.D.
Carista Luminare, Ph.D., is President of Luminary Leadership Institute, which brings leaders into alignment with their highest virtues. She integrates childhood psychology, adult relationship dynamics, and development of the True Self in her counseling and healing work with executives, entrepreneurs, and organizations. She has pioneered numerous educational programs focused on the integration of personality and soul. She is the author of the groundbreaking book, Parenting Begins Before Conception.
Lion Goodman is CEO of Luminary Leadership Institute. He has 35 years experience as an executive coach, counselor, and healer. His executive search consulting firm served more than 250 companies and C-suite executives across the U.S. He created a methodology for shifting beliefs at the core of the psyche, which is now used by hundreds of coaches and therapists internationally. He is the author of Creating on Purpose; Menlightenment; and Transform Your Beliefs. View Guest page
Dr. Abraham Morgentaler
Dr. Abraham Morgentaler is the Founder of Men’s Health Boston and author of Why Men Fake It - the Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex. He’s an Associate Clinical Professor of Urology at Harvard Medical School, Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center.
Dr. Morgentaler’s exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex - a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media.
He also authored The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact on Love and Relationships, Male Body: A Physician's Guide to What Every Man Should Know About His Sexual Health and Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health. View Guest page
Tammy Nelson, PhD
Tammy Nelson, PhD is the author of several books including, Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together and The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity. She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self, Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, Shape, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, Women’s Health. She writes for the Psychotherapy Networker, Huffington Post, YourTango, ThirdAge, and GoodCleanLove. Dr. Nelson is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist with over 25 years of experience working with individuals and couples, is in private practice and teaches seminars and workshops around the world for couples and professionals. She is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist. She speaks worldwide on global relational change. View Guest page
Shantam Nityama is a Reiki master, chi gong energy worker, tantra and spiritual teacher. He has led Tantric workshops internationally for the last 16 years. Nityama is also a master body-worker with 27 years experience in numerous healing modalities.
His diverse background includes, Reiki Master, Polarity Therapy, Body Talk, Advanced Medical Qi Gong, Bowen Technique, Sex to Super Consciousness Training, Neuro-structural Integration Technique. He was also a disciple of Tantric Master, Osho for 25 years. He co-facilitated workshops with Deborah Anapol, author of the book “Love Without Limits” and Founder of the Sacred Space Institute in San Rafael, CA., for six years before going solo. Nityama also leads a successful private practice in San Rafael, CA., where he offers sessions for men /women/couples, mentoring programs for men, and powerful energetic phone sessions for women. View Guest page
Gina Ogden PhD
Gina Ogden PhD, LMFT is a master therapist, supervisor, researcher, teacher, and author with four decades of helping clients and training health professionals. Her ISIS Wheel of Sexual Experience is an innovative template that opens access to the full range of sexual issues: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Her retreats and trainings in the US and Mexico combine nuanced thinking and relational magic. She is an AASECT-certified sex-therapy diplomate and supervisor, and founder of the ISIS Network, an international collaboration of practitioners whose mission is to expand the practice of sex therapy. Her latest books are: Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy, The Return of Desire, The Heart & Soul of Sex, and Women Who Love Sex. She is recipient of the 2013 AASECT award for Professional Excellence, and she’s been a guest on Oprah and numerous other national media. http://www.ginaogden.com http://www.ISISNetwork.org View Guest page
Judith Orloff MD
Transforming the face of psychiatry, Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal -- and prevent -- illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care.
An intuitive healer, and the author of the best selling book, “Emotional Freedom,” she advocates "a democracy of healing," wherein every aspect of our being is granted a vote in the search for total health. It is our birthright, both as health-care givers and health-care recipients, to reclaim our intuition to build energy and well-being. In response to her work, The Los Angeles Times calls Dr. Orloff "a prominent energy-based healer."
Dr. Orloff is accomplishing for psychiatry what physicians like Dean Ornish and Mehmet Oz have done for mainstream medicine -- she is proving that the links between physical, emotional, and spiritual health can't be ignored. View Guest page
Karen Rauch Carter
Karen Rauch Carter is a feng shui expert and best-selling book author of Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life. As a feng shui consultant and healthy-lifestyle designer, she is passionate about helping people create and live their healthiest and most vibrant lives.
Karen has over 20 years of experience studying Mind, Body, Spirit and Environment-changing methods and modalities that produce consistent, and some say miraculous, results. Karen’s multi-dimensional background gave her the foundation to create and synthesize a unique holographic approach to change. This wisdom is the basis for her new book Make a Shift, Change Your Life; a comprehensive resource that creates supportive inner and outer environments capable of quickly transforming lives for the better. Karen’s methodology integrates time-tested, researched, and sound practices for bodies, minds, spirits, and surroundings. View Guest page
Kenya and Carl Stevens
Kenya and Carl Stevens help people create harmonious relationships and achieve life desires. They are best-selling authors, she of Change Your Man and he of Tame Your Woman. In addition to academic degrees, they were formally trained in yoga, breathing, meditation, and metaphysical thought for over ten years, which informs their unique coaching style. In 2005, they founded JujuMama LLC. Using the skills and service they refined coaching couples and saving marriages, The Progressive Love Movement was launched in 2010.
They believe Progressive Love can save the modern relationship. With a failing 55% divorce rate, the pair is sure we need new alternatives. Creator of The 30 Minute Orgasm, Gender Harmonics and the Three Way Mirror Process for couples, the Stevens embrace the humanity in us all and bring an expanded view of love to the lives of millions suffering from unfulfilling relationships. Married 16 years, they live between North Carolina and Manhattan raising three children. View Guest page
Deborah Sundahl is the foremost pioneer and expert in female ejaculation and the G-spot. She is the author of Female Ejaculation and the G-spot (Hunter House, 2003). Her 28 years of groundbreaking contributions to this field include a line of videos titled the Female Ejaculation Sex Education Series (Isis Media, Inc.), which Deborah produced and hosts.
Deborah lectures and gives workshops in North America and Europe, and has taught thousands of men and women how to integrate the G-spot and female ejaculation into their erotic body and sexual life. She continues to be a spokesperson for female sexuality and an advocate for sex education. View Guest page
Patricia Taylor, PhD
Patricia Taylor, PhD, is the leading teacher of Expanded Orgasm in the world today. The sources of her studies of over 20 years include bio-neural sexuality, More University, the Human Awareness Institute, hypnosis and Tantra. She is a California Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Yet her most extensive experience stems from working directly with others and from her own ongoing rigorous practice of frequent extended, ecstatic Expanded Orgasms across 15 years. Her books include The Enchantment of Opposites: How to Create Great Relationships, and the bestselling 2002 classic, Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover’s Every Touch. The second edition is to be released in January 2014. Her explicit DVD, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, demonstrates a woman in an expanded orgasmic state for over 30 minutes. Dr. Taylor earned her PhD in Transpersonal Psychology in 2000, with the groundbreaking dissertation, Expanded Orgasm as a Pathway to the Transcendence of Consciousness. View Guest page
Sheri Vie, Ph.D.
Born in South Africa of Indian lineage, Sheri Vie, Ph.D., focuses on Yoga, the Science of Self Realization, to regenerate the mind and unleash the power of human possibilities. A former Swiss medical device scientist, she retrained to natural health scientist after losing her father to heart disease and helping her mother recover from breast cancer. She devotes her 20 years of global research findings, education, training, and food and herbal formulations to activating your natural organic human potential. Dr. Vie is passionate about mountains and has climbed the Himalayas, African ranges, North American Rockies and Swiss Alps. She holds a post-doctorate specializing in medical devices and is a Swiss patent holder. Dr. Vie furthered her doctoral education in natural medicine (Ayurveda, Homeopathy and TCM). She is now focused on holistic medicine and is actively involved in the research and development of brain enhancing products and programs for sustainable health. View Guest page
Dr. Jenny Wade
Dr. Jenny Wade is a lecturer, researcher, and consultant who specializes the spontaneous openings and intentional practices that expand human potential by accessing hidden or unused innate capacities. She is a developmental psychologist who studies processes that open gateways to greater possibility than is considered normal in everyday existence, but that is potentially available to all human beings.
Dr. Wade is the author of “Changes of Mind: A Holonomic Theory of the Evolution of Consciousness,” “Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil” and numerous articles. She is on the core faculty of Sofia University (formerly the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology) in Palo Alto. View Guest page
Brett Wade, Ph.D
Brett Wade, Ph.D is the author of the groundbreaking new book The Ekahi Method: Master the Waves of Life (“ekahi” meaning “one” in Hawaiian). As a practicing physical therapist for nearly twenty years, he became aware of the possibility that our own frequencies, our own waves, may affect not only our health but our relationships. He explains how, much like radio waves, human beings are always on their own frequency. The harmonies between different types of people, things, and environments are what we refer to casually every day as “good vibes.”
He developed a Frequency Profile as a way of quantifying people’s Base Frequency into one of five Base Frequencies: RED, YELLOW, GREEN, BLUE, VIOLET. After years of experimenting with Base Frequencies, he discovered that when people of similar Base Frequencies come together they describe “resonance” or “feeling relaxed,” and when people of opposite Base Frequencies come together, they describe feeling “nervous” or “anxious”. View Guest page