The Dreaded Ride Home, Popular Myths of Youth Sports
May 14, 2014
Hosted by Mickey Ellison
We as parents of young athletes want what will help them become the best player they can possibly be. In our quest to help them, we often do more harm than good. Have you ever discussed the game just played by your child as you drive home? In that conversation, have you ever criticize a coach’s decision, another player’s performance, or your own kid’s performance? I have, and the conversation ends bad, despite our best intensions. Why is the ride home the worst time to have that conversation? Join John O’Sullivan from Changing the Game Project as he and I discuss the ride home and the following “popular youth sports myths” on the Mickey Ellison Show. When I got these players alone, and asked them “what was your least favorite moment in sports?” I often got a very similar and sad answer: the ride home after the game. - See more at: http://changingthegameproject.com/the-ride-home-after-the-game/#sthash.FbfPaOkm.dpuf Myth 1: Children need to specialize early if they want to play at a higher level when the child is older. Myth 2: Sports, and specifically travel and competitive-level sports, are investment in a future scholarship or contract. Myth 3: Parents and coaches who want to develop high performers must focus on winning.
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Children are more wise than adults because they question everything, and as adults, we are often annoyed by those questions, especially the question “Why?” We adults become “set in our ways”, when in reality answering the question “why” may cause us to question what we believe. We would rather give the answer, “it just is,” because we are intellectually lazy and we really don’t know why. The question “why” is an important question because it requires critical thinking to answer. “Why” can back up our beliefs or “why” can break them down and cause us to realize that many of our thoughts are really not our own, rather they are thoughts of others that we have accepted as our own.
Here are some “why” questions for you to consider. Why do some churches ban dancing? David danced! Is a little inflation a good thing? Is our tax code over 70,000 pages long? Are there racists? No one is born that way! Never stop asking why! You never know what you might discover.
I was born in a small town in South Carolina with the dream of playing professional baseball. That dream died in 1993 when my career at Vanderbilt ended. I chased wealth through network marketing only to be $200k in debt after two years. In 1999 I became a financial planner, and a Certified Financial Planner in 2006. While in network marketing and financial planning I heard so many times that perception is reality and “Fake it till you make it,” and those clichés are lies! I had that gut feeling that something was wrong and never spoke up or acted, and in 2009, I found myself scared with one prayer, and that was to know the truth. In my search, I had to look in the mirror, and realized many of the gut feelings that I had about the industry were correct. My goal is to educate, and most of that education is simply common sense. For what it’s worth, I believe my experiences in life can help people, from failing in baseball, and reflecting on the excuses. From pretending to be someone I’m not to get rich in network marketing. From being scared to death because of debt. Pretending to be someone I wasn’t in the financial industry, and now helping people understand what they have in investments and what they are paying. Much of what society tries to sell us is a lie, and if we think for ourselves, search inside, question everything, we can find truth. Find the child inside of us that asks the question “Why?”