Helpful Hints to Raising Independent Thinkers

July 18, 2016
Hosted by Kathy J. Ellis

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This week we’re going to continue the topic of independent thinking and how to foster independent thinking in children and nurture cooperation. My guest will be Julie Choquette, MFTI. She has been the assistant director of the child abuse treatment program we run (ncatprogram.org). Julie has raised two incredible teenage boys. They are well mannered, responsible, creative, hard working, smart, and have common sense (most of the time). Raising children is rarely easy but Julie uses some great approaches that work. We’ll be sharing a number of helpful hints, thoughts and insights. Listen in on a conversation between two child therapists and long time co-workers and friends. This will be one of many shows on creating a working family. You know, one that works through cooperation, organization and respect, and isn't full of stress, yelling, avoidance, and frustrations. Life is precious. Just a few little changes can make it so much more enjoyable.

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Hello and welcome to Make Life Work where I’ll be talking about people, culture and everything "humanity" (animals, too as they're part of humanity). It might sound like a mix between psychology and cultural anthropology classes but much more entertaining. I’ll talk about how we shape culture and how it traps us, and look at how the expectations of social groups and families impact how we think, feel and behave. It’s impossible to separate the nature of people and the influence of society. We all have a little something we have to deal with and we often get in the way of our success and happiness. The great news is just a little change goes a very long way. Society can't change if people don't grow as humans and people won't change if society fails to evolve. We need to attend to both, the health of society and the health of people.

Kathy J. Ellis

After 35 years as a Marriage, Family and Child therapist (LMFT) I’m starting my “retirement career” as a radio host, life coach (and food blogger and photographer). In my career I’ve worked with many different people from all walks of life and all ages. I’ve opened businesses; work in many different settings, and provided training and education. I’ve studied communication skills, physiological psychology (it’s all about the brain!), social and educational psychology. I’m also a keen observer of how the culture and society shapes individual beliefs, attitudes and behavior. If I had to pick an approach to therapy it would be Cognitive Behavioral, but the truth is that people are not theories, they are not books, nor are they a clinical diagnosis. The first thing I say to new interns is “Now, throw away the books.” What I want to know is what people think more then they feel. It doesn’t take a therapist to see what someone is feeling, but we can’t see what a person is thinking. Of course, feelings have their place and are so important, when they’re not screwing around with someone’s ability to make a safe and sound decision, muster up confidence, tolerate mistreatment or grow up.

Now I just want to share what I know about people and culture, and if anyone learns something, laughs a little and feels a bit better about themselves then that would be an added bonus!

For the whole story, my credentials and experience please go to http://makelifeworktoday.com.

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