Raise Competent and self-assured children!
August 29, 2016
Hosted by Kathy J. Ellis
My guest, Daniel Patterson, will be sharing his experience, wisdom, and many good ideas on how to help children and teens grow into competent, capable and self-assured adults. All too often today we see parents basically recusing their kids and not letting them learn to be responsible and accountable. They forget they're raising an adult AND also someone's spouse or employee. As an employer it's so difficult to work with someone who was never held accountable, never learned to depend on him-herself, and expect something for nothing. People's self-esteem is developed through being able to navigate their mistakes, learning to rely on themselves, and owning up to their own behavior vs. lie and make excuses and-or shirk their responsibilities. When we rescue kids it HURTS their self-esteem. It is the pervasive pattern of micromanaging, hovering, rescuing and making excuses for children that stunts their growth. On this show Daniel will share his common sense tools to helping kids grow.
Make Life Work
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Hello and welcome to Make Life Work where I’ll be talking about people, culture and everything "humanity" (animals, too as they're part of humanity). It might sound like a mix between psychology and cultural anthropology classes but much more entertaining. I’ll talk about how we shape culture and how it traps us, and look at how the expectations of social groups and families impact how we think, feel and behave. It’s impossible to separate the nature of people and the influence of society. We all have a little something we have to deal with and we often get in the way of our success and happiness. The great news is just a little change goes a very long way. Society can't change if people don't grow as humans and people won't change if society fails to evolve. We need to attend to both, the health of society and the health of people.
Kathy J. Ellis
After 35 years as a Marriage, Family and Child therapist (LMFT) I’m starting my “retirement career” as a radio host, life coach (and food blogger and photographer). In my career I’ve worked with many different people from all walks of life and all ages. I’ve opened businesses; work in many different settings, and provided training and education. I’ve studied communication skills, physiological psychology (it’s all about the brain!), social and educational psychology. I’m also a keen observer of how the culture and society shapes individual beliefs, attitudes and behavior. If I had to pick an approach to therapy it would be Cognitive Behavioral, but the truth is that people are not theories, they are not books, nor are they a clinical diagnosis. The first thing I say to new interns is “Now, throw away the books.” What I want to know is what people think more then they feel. It doesn’t take a therapist to see what someone is feeling, but we can’t see what a person is thinking. Of course, feelings have their place and are so important, when they’re not screwing around with someone’s ability to make a safe and sound decision, muster up confidence, tolerate mistreatment or grow up.
Now I just want to share what I know about people and culture, and if anyone learns something, laughs a little and feels a bit better about themselves then that would be an added bonus!
For the whole story, my credentials and experience please go to http://makelifeworktoday.com.