Not Exactly Love: A Memoir of Domestic Violence

February 23, 2017
Hosted by Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips

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According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, nearly 20 people per minute in the U.S. are physically abused by an intimate partner. Our guest, Betty Hafner is one of those who suffered. A teacher, counselor, and author, Betty will draw upon her beautiful but terrifying book, Not Exactly Love: A Memoir. She will give us the insider’s view of the dark and complex trap of Domestic Violence. You will hear about bruises on her wedding day, necessary denial, frozen fear, cycles of love and abuse, the reason people can’t leave, the shame and excuses, the split off professional life, the isolation, the echoes of historical roots, self-doubt, police, therapy and incremental steps of self-protection, self-esteem and a way out. Betty Hafner’s memoir reads with the power and suspense of fiction; but it is painfully true. Whether you are male or female, have suffered from domestic or intimate partner violence or tried to help someone who has, you will want to hear this show.

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Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips

Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips has been a practicing psychologist, psychoanalyst, group therapist for over 35 years and a newly retired Adjunct Full Professor of Clinical Psychology of 28 years from LIU. She is the co-author of three books and over 40 articles and chapters. Most recently, she co-authored "Healing Together: A Couple’s Guide to Coping with Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress." She has written and presented on a wide range of topics including couples, marriage, divorce, trauma, teens, bullying, pets, military, managing stress, infidelity, sexual violence, bereavement and building resilience. Her work has been recognized with awards such as The Suffolk County Psychological Association Psychologist of the Year Award, The Rutgers University GSAPP Lifelong Distinguished Achievement Award, and The American Group Psychotherapy Association Social Responsibility Award. She has given testimony before Congress for the needs of military families. Suzanne is a blogger for Psychology Today. She has also blogged for Psych Central and This Emotional Life on PBS. She has appeared on television programs such as Fox 5 Good Day New York and Good Day Street Talk. She has been a radio guest on many shows including Military Mom Talk Radio,Tom Matt’s Boomer Rock and NPR. From 2013- 2015, Suzanne hosted Psych Up on CoSozo radio and on WMIQ 1450 AM in Michigan. Since 2015, her show, "Psych Up Live," airs globally on VoiceAmerica and has had 300 episodes, available as podcasts on VoiceAmerica, iTunes, Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, TuneIn, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Apple TV, Google Home, Amazon Alexa, iHeartRadio, etc.


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