I’m a gay/queer cis gendered white male (he/him). Even though I’ve helped thousands heal trauma for 2 decades, I know what it’s like to come up against seemingly insuperable anxiety and depression. The kind of chronic pain and shame that destroys hope and makes you feel like an outsider in your own life. Unresolved trauma can feel like a ticking time bomb waiting to detonate. In my early 20s, I worked in a non-profit. I was aligned to my work and my mission, yet in my race to do good I was destroying myself. My scoliosis and burnout left me feeling strangled and utterly empty inside.My nervous system was on overdrive and my health, my relationships and my leadership suffered big time. Despite tremendous victories that ushered in historic and sweeping legislation, I was unable to celebrate the wins. I was running on fumes and had lost myself. And when we lose ourselves there are no wins.