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Most of us have been taught through the liberal use of shame. Bad boy. Bad girl. This conditions us to use shame to try to discipline others and/or to stop people from hurting us. Does shame work to help us change or to support others to do the same? In small doses, shame can bring awareness to hurtful behavior. But shame is so painful, it often backfires. Shamed people usually get defensive and counter-attack. Or they feel so devastated, they are too paralyzed to change. Why is shame such a powerful emotion? How can we stop using it to control others? How can we overcome our own so we can wel
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