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How often were you told: Don't cry. You're fine. It doesn't hurt. That's enough now. Pull yourself together. Don't be a crybaby. Or maybe even: Stop crying or I'll give you something to really cry about. I'd like to think that this doesn't happen anymore, but I know better. Boys get a much heavier dose of this kind of training than girls do. We have a distorted idea of what it means to be strong. The truth is that strength develops by allowing ourselves to feel. That's what it means to be human. We must learn for ourselves and then teach our children that feelings are normal. It is not only OK
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