Validation is a tactic that people do to gain others' approval. It makes people feel acknowledged and happy for a moment. It seems like the perfect path to take — and it’s one many people can continue on for many years, believing it’s reducing our anxiety about disapproval in our daily lives.
In reality, it appears to work well in getting people to like us. We avoid having them disapprove of our actions, and we get to enjoy that nice pat on the back every once in a while. However, there will come a time when the constant seeking of approval — the very solution to our problems — will run
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