Listening and Parenting
March 27, 2023
Hosted by David Cooke
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If you haven’t had the opportunity to listen to the first episode of this show, you haven’t had an opportunity to hear the story behind my passion for listening and how listening can completely alter a damaged or difficult relationship. While I teach and coach listening to leaders and organizations, I originally focused on sharing the power of effective listening behaviors to parents. Specifically, parents who were struggling with substance abuse and addiction related struggles in their families. Today’s featured guest is my youngest child, Brandon Cooke. It was our respective father-son journey with his heroin addiction that I discovered how to listen, love, and parent my son in an impactful and transformational way. While you may think that parenting, or parenting a child with substance use disorder, is different than leading a team of co-workers, managing a large organization, or navigating a difficult relationship. Think again! Take the opportunity to join us on the show. It will be an eye-opening conversation.
Stop Telling and Start Listening
Mondays at 11AM Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica Empowerment Channel
Everyone has an opinion. Everyone wants to be heard. Everyone wants to believe we are right! Reality check - we can’t all be right! Opinions are strong, beliefs are cemented, and tensions are high How do we navigate through all the noise and have healthy, open, honest and problem-solving conversations without getting into a heated argument? It all starts by learning to listen! This show is all about listening - Selfless Listening. It is about creating a safe, open, and accepting environment that • encourages the open sharing of strongly held and diverse beliefs • facilitates learning from the experiences and opinions of others To find connection and understanding in our diversity to enhance trust, develop relationships, and work together to solve even the most complex problems. Join me as we navigate our intense and passionate opinions to discover how to communicate beyond the divide that has developed between them. Stop Telling and Start Listening!
David Cooke has always been a learner and a problem solver. His gregarious personality, communication skills, and ability to connect with others had many predicting a sales career. Bristling at being labeled a salesperson, he acknowledges his passion for "helping others find what they are looking for" can be construed as a component of a selling mindset. He prefers to be seen as a relationship development professional. While navigating the chaos of his youngest child's heroin addiction, Dave discovered a unique approach to interacting with his son in this very dark, painful period of their lives. David discovered that meeting his son where he was, accepting him for who he was, and loving him unconditionally in that moment, completely redefined their relationship. Practicing loving acceptance required David to create a safe space for his son to share his story so David could better understand what his son was going through in the chaos of his addiction. The more David experienced a transformation in his relationship with his son, the more passionate he became about this commitment. Most important was a behavior he defined as Selfless Listening - creating a safe place for his son to share his journey without judgement, criticism or shame. Today Dave works with business leaders and parents, teaching them how to selflessly listen to build trust, enhance relationships and solve complex problems. It is also the foundational principle this show is built on.