Bouncing Back with N. John Shore Jr.
February 7, 2020
Hosted by Diane Dewey
N. John Shore writes, "When love enters your life, everything changes. When love leaves your life, nothing does. Love flies away today and tomorrow you're exactly where you were before it left...relentlessly and inexplicably, life without love continues," (p. 33, Everywhere She's not, 2019, Laughing Moon Books). And what of our ability to separate ourselves from the reality that doesn't change? To dissociate from the tough emotions? And to distance ourselves from pain? We compartmentalize but then something happens to breaks us apart and reassemble ourselves again. Take the trip from comparmentalizaing to allowing it all in with David, Shore's fictional character. The author's own tragic story forms the crux of his wisdom: He'll share both with us on this week's episode when we'll learn how he and his sister coped with the major loss of their mother in childhood, only to return to their lives. Question: Is it possible to bounce back, though not in the predictable ways to 100%?
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At Dropping In we’ll explore diverse stories about identity. What makes people unique? We’re done with shoe-horning ourselves into preconceived notions of who we should be or being told who we are. Dropping In Stories are stories of self-discovery. They enable us to find our truth, re-configure ourselves to that truth, and becoming stronger for it. It brings the juice to re-imagine who we want to be. By listening to others talk about their own path, ours becomes less fearful. We’re always supposed to know what we’re doing, where we’re going, but we often don’t, and there’s no shame in that. We need a compass. Drop into the conversation. Create a new dialogue. You might get clues on your direction, the answers you seek, or even the questions you want to avoid. The adventure continues on Dropping In where unique stories become part of the fabric of diversity.
My most pressing question has always been about identity: Who am I? Growing up near Philadelphia with my adoptive family, my genetic identity was hidden. Then, my Swiss biological father, Otto, contacted me when I was age forty-seven in 2002. I’d been told by my adoptive parents that my biological parents were dead, supposedly to protect me. Meeting Otto upended my life. Through him, I met my German biological mother’s family to discover that her story too, had been changed; that she’d not wanted to surrender me and she’d searched for me all her life. Finding my truth was essential.
Based on my experience I am excited to talk to people about their own search for identity. My education includes a BA from Villanova University, a certificate from the Art Institute of Philadelphia and a Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling from Capella University. I’ve worked for The Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, The SoHo Partnership and the National Academy of Design and have studied writing through New York University’s Continuing Education program. As an entrepreneur, I founded my art appraisal business, The Realization of Art in 2006. My non-fiction writing has been published in Shared Space, a monograph, and in Artes online magazine. Writing workshops worldwide have given me the chance to learn and hone my craft. My first book, “Fixing the Fates,” was awarded the National Non-Fiction Author’s Association Silver Medal and the Living Now Award.