Loss and Grief - Moving from 'why to 'what'

January 19, 2015
Hosted by Dayton Ann Williams

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Episode Description

Our thoughts give birth to feelings which present us with opportunities to make choices. This is our creative process. When we experience a loss or grief, at some point we make a choice to move through the experience; to heal. Without a conscious choice to heal, we create an unconscious alternative which allows the thoughts and feelings generated by our loss or grief to become an identifier. Rather than experiencing loss or grief, we begin to believe the loss or grief is who we are. When we become mindful of our thoughts, we understand how changing our thoughts, changes our feelings and changes our lives. We move from asking ‘why’ something happened to making choices of ‘what’ we will do now. We become aware of our experience and actively participate in the healing process. Through our conscious choices, we empower ourselves to embrace the inevitable changes that will transpire as a result of the loss or grief we are experiencing and we begin the journey to healing.

A Light for the Soul That Weeps

A Light for the Soul That Weeps

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This program answers the questions “How will we respond?” “What do we intend to do now that it happened?” As we focus on our thoughts, feelings, and choices, that which is our responsibility, we create harmony in our inner world. The grief or loss we experienced becomes the catalyst to knowing and being our unique expression of the Divine in this time and space, to understand the true meaning of our presence and connectedness in this world.

My deep desire is to offer a passageway of thoughts and feelings that begin to resonate within you and nurture you as you heal. We will never be the person we were before our loss. Yet, as we embrace the process and honor the changes that will transpire, we will change in ways that we cannot yet imagine. We will re-engage in life from a new perspective. Having experienced contrast, perhaps the deepest pain we have ever known, we will ultimately experience abundance as never before. Although healing is an inward journey, you are not alone.

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Dayton Ann Williams

Dayton Ann Williams

I spent my life focusing on ‘what I did,’ working hard to grow and expand personally and professionally; to heal. I accomplished much, yet was left with a feeling that it wasn’t quite enough. When I directed my attention to being responsible for my thoughts, feelings and choices, to making happiness my focus, to embracing ‘who I am,’ I experienced the magical melding of my physical, emotional and spiritual nature. I was compelled to go beyond my experiences, beyond my perceptions, beyond my belief systems and discover the magnificence of this time and space, to embrace the beauty within my soul, to walk with others on their journey.

I am a Certified Professional, Spiritual, Relationship and Bereavement Coach, an author, speaker, Level 3 Traditional Reiki Practitioner, and a former Certified Senior Project Manager for IBM. In my journey I overcame alcoholism through developing a spiritual way of life and practice that has spanned over30 years. A commitment to embracing life from the perspective of love supported my own healing after the death of my eldest son, SGT Tyrell Williams, USMC, and a relationship where my partner’s crack and alcohol abuse would fuel domestic violence, financial devastation, and the destruction of a dream two years in the making. From a heart-felt desire to help others, I offer a unique approach to healing and wellness. For the soul that weeps, I offer a light as you awaken to the beautiful and divine being of love that you truly are.

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