Understanding Your Love Style: The Love Connector

October 12, 2016
Hosted by Chelli Pumphrey

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Do you find yourself constantly preoccupied with thoughts of a partner? Do you feel a lot of anxiety in relationships? Have you ever found yourself pulling away from a partner when they've upset you, but secretly wanting them to chase after you? Do you have a pattern of dating partners who are emotionally distant or afraid of commitment? Do you crave a lot of closeness and intimacy in your relationships? Or, have you ever dated someone who has these qualities? If so, you won't want to miss this week's episode of Destination Love. Host Chelli Pumphrey will introduce the Love Styles and the concept of attachment. We'll focus on the Love Connector style, with our special guest, Amytza Maskati. Amytza and Chelli will talk about how to understand the anxiety and struggles that a Love Connector faces in dating and relationships, so that you can stop feeling crazy, stop sabotaging relationships and find more compatible partners as you search for love.

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The mission of Destination Love is to help people understand why they experience certain feelings, behaviors, and struggles in their relationships through the use of psychology, attachment, and the science of the brain in a fun, intriguing, and engaging format.

I want to empower people to stop relying on fate and fairy tales to find love. Destination Love covers many topics around relationships to help people increase their awareness of self and others, as we explore the science, psychology, and even the more mysterious side of relationships.

Destination Love is not about learning to find love through creating perfect Hollywood looks, a flawless online dating profile, or saying the right words to catch that perfect date. Instead, we empower people with knowledge, to increase people’s courage to be more authentic, and to explore and explain the mysteries of why we do what we do in relationships.

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Chelli Pumphrey

Chelli Pumphrey

Chelli Pumphrey, MA, LPC, the Love Strategist, is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Relationship Expert. With over twenty years of experience as a psychotherapist, Chelli blends her knowledge of psychology, attachment, and the science of the brain to help people find love. She’s your relationship wing-woman, but with solid advice that actually works! Chelli will help you overcome fear, become more authentic in your relationships, find compatible partners, and put an end to unhealthy relationship patterns.

Chelli is passionate about helping people develop healthy, committed, and fulfilling relationships. She has both a psychotherapy and coaching practice, leads transformative retreats and classes and regularly publishes blogs and articles about helping people find the courage to live and love with authenticity and passion. Chelli will also be a featured relationship coach in Leap, a movie due to be released in 2017, about the transformative power of coaching.

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