X is for Xaern

January 16, 2020
Hosted by Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

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Xaern is described as when you like something so much that you start to hate it. We are talking about what happens when you hate that you love someone and also about what happens when a behaviour becomes compulsive. Sometimes, we find ourselves in a rut as a result of this phenomena. When it is an obsession with person, we can feel insecure and dependent and thus hate the feelings of love that we have developed. Getting out of a compulsive loop can be complex. Increasing one's self-confidence and lowering dependence in a relationship can be difficult if there are long standing patterns in place. We will give some tips to start untangling these patterns so that xaern decreases and genuine enjoyment returns.

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The A to Z of Sex

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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

I am a clinical psychologist, sex and intimacy coach. I have been working with individuals, couples, groups for over 30 years to help them create and sustain their ideal intimate relationships. I am kink and polyamory knowledgeable. I work with all genders, sexualities. I have expertise helping people heal from trauma, moving beyond survivor mode and back into life. I provide therapy, coaching, events, workshops online, in real life to help my clients gain and maintain relationships that suit them best.

Since 2016 I’ve hosted the A to Z of Sex podcast and Sex Spoken Here podcast, now vlog. I am a professional speaker covering relationships with sexuality from A to Z worldwide.

My websites host blogs covering topics from how to support a child who has just come out as transgender to what to do if your partner wants you to open up your relationship to healing from vaginismus. I write for Yourtango.com, Scarlet LadiesUK and am featured on PsychCentral, Prevention, and others. I have two books out: Rites of Passage and the other on treatment of PTSD. My third book is in production.

I am bisexual, married to a bisexual man. We are polyamorous, and in an authority transfer based BDSM relationship. My mission: Taking sex and conversations about sex from the shadows to the light. Join me to explore the erotic alphabet from A to Z. Whether you resonate with alternative lifestyles or a traditional one, you deserve an authentic intimate life.

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