October 15, 2021
Hosted by Christi Anne Bela
Sixth grade was the first time I was slut-shamed, ironically for being a "Prude". I had developed early and was in a C cup at 12 years old, so rumors were that I was a slut. When a boy I had a crush on tried to kiss me, but I was too shy to do it, the flood gates opened with name-calling and harassment that got so bad by Eighth grade I quit school to do a home study. I spent most of my life being shamed for the sexual choices I was or wasn't making. I find it fascinating that there isn't a male equivalent for the slurs used against Women, slut, whore, tramp, etc. Until recently this was dismissed as a "Boys will be boys" a free pass for abuse. "Times up" and "Me Too" movements have made a shift in dismantling the Patriarchy behind this behavior, but we are still on the path for equality and honoring of people's sexual choices. In this episode, I reflect on my life and how I have come to embrace and be empowered by my inner slut.
Unbuckled, with Intimacy Architect Christi Anne Bela
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“Unbuckled” is where you will be seen and heard. It features world-renowned guests in the fields of spiritality, sexual health, wellness and coaching. No topic is taboo. These doctors, authors, speakers, teachers and healers want to hear your stories, so together we can get raw and real.
Christi Anne Bela and her guests are here to help you get out of your own way and gain the insight you need to build a life you love. The intimacy of understanding brings empowerment to all your connections. Get clear on what matters and make your boundaries your superpowers.
Anything we are too afraid to talk about is holding us hostage, and it is time to name it, claim it, lean in and do all the hard things, let vulnerability crack the heart wide open and let the light shine through.
“Unbuckled” gets to what’s underneath, past the fears of shame and up to the glory of sharing authentically. Christi Anne doesn't shy away from anything and empowers you to speak your mind.
Christi Anne Bela
Christi Anne Bela, published author, keynote speaker, radio personality and Intimacy Architect. Her expertise is helping people discover the power of intimacy and how to harness it, opening themselves to living passionately.
Christi Anne began her work as a sexuality educator in 2008. She has an extensive background in Tantra, Yoga and wellness, including training at the Autism Center of America and the Kundalini Research Institute.
She is the founder of Intimacy Architecture, which combines self-growth and community building to create safer ways to enjoy and honor the power of our sexuality. The acronym she created, C.A.T.C.H., to teach boundaries to people of all ages and abilities is featured in the “Consent Guidebook” and was part of the talk she did at TEDx Lenox Village Women in 2020.
Christi Anne has spoken on the subject of consent and boundaries at the Sex Down South Conference, Mega Disability Conference and the Arc Conference for the last 3 years. She has run workshops for Sex Positive World, body positive Burlesque series, fundraisers for LGBTQ youth and outreach with the Nashville Pride.