Why We Love People Who Hurt Us: The Human Magnet Syndrome

July 2, 2013
Hosted by Lisa Ferentz

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In this hour we will discuss the dynamic of dysfunctional relationships and why some people have successful and mutually satisfying romantic relationships while many others do not. We will explore the reasons why people repeat their hurtful relationship patterns over and over again, looking at the attraction of polar opposite personality types and how their unhealthy “dance” keeps them stuck. Our guest will explain how people who are co-dependent and those who are emotional manipulators are drawn towards one another and why they become trapped in a perpetual magnetic attraction. After the initial high, we will describe how these relationships become conflicted, chaotic and unfulfilling. We will explore why these relationships are so difficult to end but also offer suggestions regarding how we can extricate ourselves from these unhappy relationships and move in the direction of healthy, and mutually gratifying intimacy.

Inspired Journeys: Overcoming Adversity and Thriving

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Our program will educate and inspire. Lisa will interview authors, clinicians, and everyday people who have experienced or witnessed adversity and all of its life changing consequences. We will explore the impact that sexual abuse, domestic violence, bullying, physical disabilities, panic, depression, self-destructive behaviors and addictions have on individuals, families and our society. At the same time, we will focus on how to overcome and transcend trauma through empathy, self-love, forgiveness, self-awareness and acts of kindness. Lisa will talk with guests who demonstrate the resiliency of the human spirit and have helped others achieve true healing. We will discuss the power of attachment, learning how to be in the moment, how to reclaim a sense of spirituality, hope and optimism. You will learn how to find meaning even in the most difficult traumatic experiences and will come to understand that survivors can thrive, pay it forward, and help others to heal as well.

Lisa Ferentz

Lisa is a Clinical Social Worker, educator, author, actress, wife and mother. She has been in private practice for 30 years, using a wide variety of expressive therapies to treat adolescent and adult survivors of trauma, abuse, and neglect. In 2009 Lisa was given the Social Worker of the Year Award by the Maryland Society for Clinical Social Work. She is the founder and President of the Institute for Advanced Psychotherapy Training and Education, providing continuing education workshops and Certificates in Trauma Treatment to mental health professionals. She has been an Adjunct Faculty member at several Maryland Universities. Lisa published articles on self-mutilation and eating disorders and is the author of the book Treating Self-Destructive Behaviors in Trauma Survivors, A Clinician’s Guide. She recently completed another book entitled, Letting Go of Self Destructive Behaviors, A Workbook of Hope and Healing. A recognized expert in the trauma field, she is a national and international presenter and keynote speaker. She provides ongoing consultation to practitioners and mental health agencies. In her free time, Lisa acts, directs, and choreographs in community theatre productions. Her compassionate approach to therapy, along with her belief that trauma can be transcended and survivors can truly thrive, makes her the perfect candidate to host Inspired Journeys, a program that educates and inspires, while celebrating the strength and resiliency of the human spirit.

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